Location please?

Generation gap. This is the answer for half of the misunderstandings between children and their parents.The rest however, is always the child's fault in the parents point of view and vice-versa. The underlying problem is that children can almost never listen and the parents can't stop giving instructions.

My parents can't seem to understand why a girl should have a job, when taking care of a house itself is like having two unpaid full time jobs. With overtime. You see, things have changed. Most of the work a long time back meant being physically strong to do some labor intensive work. Women did not have the strength to do that. Hence men worked while women filled up their stomachs, so they could go back to work the next day.

Only in the past two decades technology revolutionized the world and a good number of jobs were computerized and automated. The only physical work one needs to do is to left click the mouse. This coincided with the number of women being educated. Hence the women folk wanted to contribute towards society instead of just aiding global warming and, make a few extra bucks to shop.

Getting a job is a given regardless whether you're a guy or a girl. The problem actually arises in the next level. Marriage. India has become more or less like the other countries. People do not mind moving to another state for a good job. One can see people from different parts of the country within a company. When the time comes for a guy and a girl to get married. One would have to relocate. Given the current economy, at least in the US, this can be pretty challenging.

It is risky for one to just quit and relocate to find a job in the new place. That would be a George Bush move. Hence both of them get married and live separately, They depend on the loss making airlines to meet, and the free mobile to mobile plan to greet. This is great for the economy. One couple signs two rental agreements, two cable TV agreements, buys double the furniture, double the electronics, etc. But not so great for the relationship. The marriages becomes more or less like a cellphone contract one tries to abide by. No harm until they keep paying their monthly dues. In this case its the monthly visits.

Being married and living separately doesn't do any good for the career also. The employers will not totally rely on them since they know that they will quit anytime. Both do end up collecting a ton of miles though. I have seen so many people in this country in the same situation. It's complicated since the economy is worse than BP's spill and cleaning the spill is easier than finding a job. International applicants are in a bigger soup thanks to sponsorship requirements.

Career here becomes the necessary evil. There is another issue, relocating is tough as only specific places have the need for specific talent. Wall street traders are useless in North Dakota. Its like trying to convince a polar bear to move to Texas. Do I have a solution? I think so. If you are looking to get hitched, along with interests and wavelength, the zip code should also match.